Well it’s a big question to ask: “What am I meant to do” It’s overwhelming, can leave us feeling confused and even stuck. I find when people come to me with this question they feel caught up in their mind trying to figure this out (in non action) rather than in an inspired space where […]
Well it’s a big question to ask: “What am I meant to do”
It’s overwhelming, can leave us feeling confused and even stuck. I find when people come to me with this question they feel caught up in their mind trying to figure this out (in non action) rather than in an inspired space where they are actually taking action.
At the end of school this question was big for so many of those in my class. Decisions had to be made about what Uni to go to or what industry would be best to get a 9-5 job in. Me… well I knew that I wanted to do something different only problem was I had no idea what that was.
Following my passion of travel I spent 5 years in the airlines working as Cabin Crew (4 of those based in Abu Dhabi) hoping that during my worldly travels I would discover how I fit into this world. Honestly back then I felt more confused than ever.
Yet over the years I realised working for someone else and on someone else’s schedule was killing my soul and I wanted to create a life that allowed me to escape the gravitational pull to the ordinary. I followed the feeling rather than the pressures of society to meet an ideal of success that wasn’t in alignment for me.
What if the question wasn’t ‘What am I meant to do?’ rather ‘Who do I want to be?’
When I think about the first question I wonder when we feel we are meant to do something, what is driving us? The pressures of the outside world, the path we feel we are supposed to take, the ideas of success that aren’t even ours or the feeling as though we are not enough as we already are…
Yet with the second question I feel excited and empowered. I get to decide who I want to be and how I show up in the world. That’s something I can do everyday.
You see you can spend weeks, months, even years trying to figure out what your meant to do which robs you of time actually being in the everyday. So often we are caught up in the one day or some day we forget about the most important part of being in the now. Life is not a destination we reach it’s here and happening now.
My sister shared this quote with me she saw in a peanuts cartoon which I felt was so relevant:
“You only live once… no you only die once you live everyday”
My purpose isn’t something I am doing in the world rather it’s a way of being. The more I tune into who I want to be the more authentically I live my life in the everyday. When it comes to connecting with your purpose I’d start with how you show up for yourself everyday that way you lead change from the inside out.
What are you currently doing in the everyday? There was a post that went viral around the internet a while ago with these four simple steps:
1/. List all the things you do every day
2/. List all the things you love and make you happy
3/. Compare the lists
4/. Adjust accordingly
Easy right?! How you spend your days is how you spend your life.
Once you’re clear on who you want to BE you can also decide where you want to go. The following are a few questions you may like to journal with when tuning into how you’d like to play in the world:
- What came naturally for you as a child?
- If money was no object what do you dream of doing?
- What draws people to you (what advice do they seek, questions do they ask)?
- What experiences have you had that are unique to you and what did you learn from them?
- What skills do you have and how can they serve others?
- What do you lose time doing that lights you up?
- In an ideal life paint a picture in as much detail as possible of how you would spend your days.
When answering these questions I’d encourage you to dream big. So often we think something isn’t possible because we can’t seem to work out the ‘how’. Let go of needing to know the how and let yourself explore what’s possible.
An article in the Huff Post in 2017 stated that “85 per cent of the jobs that will exist in 2030 haven’t even been invented yet, estimates the report, which was authored by the Institute for the Future (IFTF) and a panel of 20 tech, business and academic experts from around the world.”
So when it comes to creating a business and life you love looks like you’ve been born into an interesting time where it’s possible to create a new way! I know for myself the way I get to play in the world I didn’t even know was possible back in my school days.
What does your soul call you to do?
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